For many, regardless of your sexual identity, navigating the rules of dating can simply be tedious. For many queer relationships, where the lines between gender roles are often blurred, the process becomes even more complicated. And for Nicole Breedlove, President and CEO of oursistercircle.com, a free social networking site for lesbians of color, certain expectations are just unbearably unrealistic. Check out her article in which she gives us her take on the entitlements many attach to gender expression in the topsy turvy, yet exhilarating, dating arena. Bring your notepads, because she came to preach!